All single ladies put your hands up, heads up. I give a round of applause, followed by a standing ovation to you all single women.

It is an issue I should come out with when I hit thirty-something. But it is never too soon to reveal it even when I am in twenty three going on twenty four.

Ok, what is going on with every body lately? Why does every one seem to be taking good care (more of a concern) of me on every weeding reception or gathering by asking me, “where is your boyfriend?”

I tell you girls, this is all for the single ladies who are feeling tired to be asked questions about boyfriend-thing and who think that what other people say about your-biological-clock-is-ticking-so-you-better-find-someone-right-now-before-it’s-too-late is no longer a tolerate statement.

We are single ladies (read. Me), who always feel somehow unsatisfied and often pretend to be strong, In fact, we act as if nothing happen (well, it actually happens) and trying so hard not to worry about tittle-tattle words from others but we have choices, I meant a lot choices whether we want to listen the discord tone bugging our ears or just listen to your heart.



When you already sick of people saying, “Maybe you are not trying hard enough or maybe you are too picky.” let me give a clear picture what a single woman should do with this kind of situation.

You do not have to say YES when a guy asking you to hang out with him in last minute call. When guys told me, “Try to straighten up your hair or rebonding to make it more tidy.”, or when someone comment, “Change you profile picture on YM, it is so ‘engga banget’!”, or when a guy telling you, “Gezz, Novi put some make up, you look plain!” or when someone advise you, “Wear a skirt more and jeans less, you should try to be like her (he pointed the pretty girl next door), you should learn how to cook you should that, you should this bla.bla.bla.bla..” , or when someone trying to be your fashion”nista” advisor, “Nope, the hat is not fit on you, here.. try this, I like this one more.”
Wo ho hoh wo..! Wait! You are not my father or even my boyfriend yet so it would be nice and look good on you if you keep your mouth shut! In fact if it is a truth, I do not want to hear the truth. I only want to hear what I want to hear!

I do not want to rebonding my hair, I was born with wavy hair and it will stay like this whenever I want! I do not want to put too much make up that make my skin itchy and dimple, I like my hideous face on my YM profile picture, I love jeans, I love to eat A LOT, I hate diet program! Why I should change what I like that I am comfortable with? If you feel you are not finding the woman you looking for in me, then do not step forward, because you are wasting your time.

Finding someone is not like time ticking up to go out and pick up any chump or listen the experts’ advice to lower our qualification in our dream guy / girl. You do not have to do that.

When you decide to live the rest of your life with someone, we are allowed to choose carefully and wisely with mindfulness not just because to accomplish the age deadline. Once you choose, you are responsible for your life and live with that for the rest of your life without ANY regret.

When people asking what I am looking for in a man, I will say "I do not need a good looking man with all the bling-bling stuffs and title things. I see a man if he can share the same interest with me, who thinks that bungee jumping, rafting, biking, diving, hiking, climbing and backpaking are on our 100 list to do before we go old and boring, a guy who feel excited when I am asking him to cycling or to go out even just to the museums, the flea market or other historical objects, a person who can teach me about wisdom and take Vipassana or other retreat together, a guy who thinks that I look very sexy in his big T-shirt rather than force my self to wear the unfit lingerie, a guy who can take my breath away with his mysterious way.”